Living with an alcoholic?

Im 13. This is kind of hard to explain so i wont put to much detail in. My father has been an alcoholic before i was even born, My step sister who is 23 grew up with him, though he left her for 5 years when she was little. He has several DUI's. I found out more info along the years. I witnessed him drunk a couple of times when i was little. He would beat my mother and my step brother (he was about 16, hes 22 now.) He went to prison for 2mounths when i was about.. 7 or 8. Then my mother, my brother, and i moved to a different house. He went to prision for 2 years and got let out early for good behavior. I've been going to his house on weekends for the past year. He was a truck driver thats why i only went there on weekends. 2 weeks ago he had a stroke and a sesure while in truck driving. He still drinks around me when i go there... Usually passes out. He studders alot. He barley remembered me. He cant work anymore... I know hes devestated because hes the kind of guy who is organized and ALWAYS works on task and schedual, very tough and strong. I havent been to his house for about 2-3 weeks... He says hes busy. So i let him be '; busy '; because i know its tough for him. He told me he hated himself after having the stroke, he said he was retarded. He said, i quaot. ';Your just a ******* retard like me.'; This was ofcaorse after He had more then 10 beers and passes out on the living room floor. He asked me if i was scared. I kept saying no, no, no. But I was terrified of him. Deeply DEEPLY afraid of him. It has been rly hard for me too deal with all this. He says i can come live with him now that he dosnt have a job. I love him very much and i'd would just love to live with him. But living with a mentaly disordered alcoholic is going to be VERY VERY VERY emotional for me... I know some people think why would i want to live with him? The truth is, its better then living with my mother... Any tips on how to deal with all of this?Living with an alcoholic?
i understand what you are going through. and my advice is to have a talk with him when he is sober and tell him your honest raw feelings about him. you can write him a note even. then he's gotta get into rehab. and something to know is that relapse is going to happen after he gets out and will most likely have to go to rehab again but then once he gets his life on track things will be better.Living with an alcoholic?
Hey, living with an alcoholic is changing you to so you need to start on your own recovery, i am not speaking complete crap, living with an alcoholic changes you, if you don't change you wont survive, you will notice your dads problem way before he will.


Here are some tips to help him realize: Don't lie for him, don't tidy up his mess, let him realize the extent of his drink and don't let him manipulate you into doing this. I really would advise you not to go and live with him. having lived with an alcoholic i know its hard wishing you could hate him but loving him. You also have to do 12 steps because from being in his orbit you are changed to stop yourself from ceasing to exist, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.


1. Realise you cannot stop him drinking


2. There is help out there al anon al ateen


3. Choose to use it


4. I look at myself uncritically


5. I acknowledge my changes





let me know if you want the rest of the steps


Im14 and live with a recovering alcoholictheres help out there