Why do i feel this way about my cuzin?

so heres the situation: i saw a picture of her smoking a cigar with young friends down at city walk (cali). to let you know more about us (so you can help):


we are both 17 (she's 3 months exactly older than me). she acts 17 (duh) has 10 siblings most younger and only a couple friends that are 20. i was raised with adults and have no younger siblings and only have 2 friends under 19 (the rest are 30-). everyone treats me as an adult and thinks i'm 25 when they meet me. i work, i pull my own weight, and have bought my own clothes since i was twelve.


she was raised over the top conservitive and homeschooled, wasnt aloud to where pants until she was sixteen and wasnt alowed male friends untill 15. her mother is english, my father is dutch....so you can imagine. idk how english people raise there kids i just know that in my house, with a DUTCH dad, you have a job when your six, you wake up on time, and you dont sit in the living room unless company is over (in other words, i was raised to be VERY responsible and independant). to make it short, she was raised obviously different than me. i (and my siblings) have a LOT of freedom because we were raised extremely responsible (you can smoke cigars and drink at ocasions (yes under age) BECAUSE you have grown into the responibility of not over doing it and have a full understanding of what alchohol (and cigars) can do. she had NO freedom what so ever untill actually about 6 months ago an she was aloud to have her own group of friends that the family didnt meet (btw my dad wont let me ahve friends he hasnt met)


the things is.....i got SO protective of her when i saw that picture! and i dont know why! i honestly want to know why can someone please help? i know i have YEARS of experience and wisdom on her from being raised the way i was and by adults. ALSO having led my own life independantly of my family forever (thats just the dutch way). her parents STILL control everything she does (and her 20 year old sister that lives at home). so i was thinking maybe thats why!?? its because i know EXACTLY that ';scene'; i know what happens when you do that and you DONT have the wisdom of a person who's done it a LONG time. its like living with an alcoholic and not knowing a thing about alcoholism or knowing even what alcoholic is. so seeing her ALONE in LA (where i'm from (she's not)) with NO male or anyone older than 17, smoking, walking in the dark in heels and a short dress is like watching someone shoot heroine in a glass room when you abnging on the door and they cant here you. because i know that SO well and she doesnt at all, i lived in nashville too...you just dont go walkin at night with only girls in a short dress and heels where there are no lights.


i'm not sure ;( that really feels like the reason but maybe its not.Why do i feel this way about my cuzin?
You feel protective because you're concerned for her and you care for her. It's how you were raised, you feel the responsible thing to do now is to watch out for her.Why do i feel this way about my cuzin?
What the hell! I thought you were Japanese.





Anyways, its natural to feel protective of someone that is somewhat close to you. Its human nature, especially for females. You know what she is doing and you know that its bad and you believe that you can help her. If people didn't have these feelings then we wouldn't survive as a society. You should bring the paddle to her.