So my little sister is on the wrong path!?

She is 25 and still lives at home with my parents along with her loser boyfriend. She works as a part time overnight paper delivery girl with her boyfriend. She doesn't make barely any money. Like $400.00 bi-weekly. She has no High School diploma or G.E.D. She drives a van my parents purchased for her and is always borrowing money for gas. Her boyfriend is an alcoholic. He drinks every day. Hard liquor on the weekends. She is very confrontational and defensive most always. She is not an alcoholic herself but she is living this alcoholic life right along side him. My sister does not buy anything for herself anymore. No new clothes or anything for just herself. She is always buying him beer and liquor. She also buys him weed. She has no goals or dreams. All she wants to do is be his shadow. They work together, sleep together, hang out together. I think its psycho. How do I save her? I hate that she makes me feel like I have to force myself not to care. We use to be very close growing up.So my little sister is on the wrong path!?
Your sister knows what is right and wrong. Get people stop them from lending money.I would say they play on their circumstances. If he found more work he'd have less time to drink,he is enjoying his free ride. Get your parents to through them out. If not make them accountable to pay there share of there bills,food etc. They say love is blind. Just be there for your sister when she wakes up to herself.Any clothes that you don't want maybe give them to your sister. Maybe have a girly day with your sister doing her hair,makeup and take her (only your sister)out for a coffee. I'd say your sister has no confidence because of this idiot.I'd do small steps with your sister if she looks nice pay her a compliment if she cooks a nice meal pay her a compliment etcSo my little sister is on the wrong path!?
oh my god
Not much other than tryiny to talkot her.
Unfortunatley, you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved. You will have to be there for her and sort of ';ride it out'; and hope its just a very long phase. What you can do is encourage her to further her education by at least getting that GED....see if you can put a positive influence in her life by persuading her to hang out with you more.
You can't force yourself not to care about your sister any more than you can force her to change. She will if she wants to, but there's nothing you can do to influence her. Your parents might be able to nudge her in the right direction if they started charging her and the boyfriend rent, you could talk to them about that, but that's up to them. The bottom line is you have to choose what you're going to do. You'll always care about her, but you can tell her that you don't want anything more to do with her until she gets herself together. 25 is very young, she has plenty of time to figure out that she's screwing up, and she very well might get her life back on track. Best of luck to her and to you.
That's a rough situation. For you, her, and your parents. The only one living the high life is the boyfriend. BUT there are 3 people enabling him right now, and only one person who wants change, so I doubt you will be able to make any impact on the situation. Consider your parents motivation in keeping them there. That is the key to solving the problem. Good luck!
Leave her be.
you can talk to your sis till your blue in the face only she can change it. your parents could throw them out but this wont make your sis see the light either. these things will only make her feel attacked. the best advice I have is to try to make her see her selfworth,show how loved she is, by family and friends build up her self esteem and the loser boyfriend will go away. guys like this prey on people with low self esteem because they are easy to control.so fix the self esteem and they ditch the loser.
wow





First of all, you can't save her.





But you may have a shot at giving her some perspective to save herself.





Try spending time with her at a neutral site. Go for lunch, a walk.......whatever.





If you confront her, you'll just force her deeper into the lifestyle that's unhealthy for her. Encourage anything positive she does, (including spending time with you).





Have you tried prayer? (not a joke)





Luck
There is nothing you can do. That is the life she has chosen.
sit down and talk to her about you being worried about her.
I'd say your parents need to take action and kick them out. Say they have 3-6 months to find good jobs and a place to stay. After they do what they should have done a couple years ago, then you can get back into a good relationship with her like visiting her often, etc.