Wednesday, August 18, 2010

IS it worth to be honest...or just come up with somthing ?

My bf and I have been together 2 years now...very rocky and complicated relationship...he is alcoholic and lived of ov me ..ignored me sexually and many more things......we broke up.for the 3rd time but 4 days later he was back





Now my coworkers introduced me to someone and I really like him ..very responsible,my age,has same values and no drinking...I want to give this new guy a chance ...but my bf still lives with me ...HOW SHOULD I TELL HIM?


That Finlay I'm tired of his behavior and want to get on with my life with someone else...I have not cheated..no kissing no sex ...just went out with the new guy with friends ..but its getting more and more serious...thanksIS it worth to be honest...or just come up with somthing ?
its time you talk to him and tell him ho you feel. life is too short to settle for someone that you are not happy with. it is time for you to move on and be happy. good luck to you, God blessIS it worth to be honest...or just come up with somthing ?
You deserve better than this guy. Tell him he needs to find a new place to live, and that you won't tolerate his alcoholism anymore. It's best just to remove yourself from the situation, he won't change. If you are having feelings for someone else, it already means you are moving on.. so just tell him that. Say you've had enough, and get on with your life so you can be happy!
Explain to him that you cant take him living with you any longer in his situation that you are moving on to bigger and better things and he is not included. That you are trying to better your life and so should he by getting another head start somewhere else!
tell him this is not what you want in a relationship. Since it;s your apt.. you have the right to tell him to leave and break up with him.. dont loose a chance with this new guy. It;s worth a try.. good luck
there is no magical answer. it's going to be tough. but i think you have spent enough of your life on a guy who has deeply rooted probs. and has no solution for his life. just say '; i can't wait anymore for you to grow up';
Be honest and tell him to get out. If you're afraid of his reaction, pack his things while he's out and have a friend or two there with you when you tell him.
Yup just be honest. That way he will see you are serious and that he can't just walk back to you in three days.
It is bad to live with an unmarried spouse because their is lack of commitment.
You should have already dumped the drunk. Now you've got another reason to do so. Why wait? Just do it!
well you need to break up with him and tell him to move out. just be honest with him
Ask your BF to move out- tell him you have decided that it's over.
just sit him down when he's not drunk.. tell him he knew this was coming... and give him a few days to get out.
Just tell him you can't live with an alcoholic anymore and that he needs to move out and get help. Don't bring up this new guy, your boyfriend will be threatened by this and try to latch onto you even harder. Be strong and move on with your life.
First of all, this is the MARRIAGE and DIVORCE section. Not the ';living with my boyfriend of 2 years and I met somebody new'; section. But I know I know, you want mature answers that you just can't get in the ';Singles %26amp; Dating'; section. So here goes..........





If you're having THIS much trouble with a guy you've only been playing house with for 2 years, why are you even still with him? According ot you he's an alcoholic, ignores you sexually, and many more things you claim he does.





So why waste your time with somebody that requires so much repair work and maintenance when there are PLENTY of eligible men out there who would love to take you to dinner, open the door when you step in, and who make you feel special? Or do you not deserve that?





BOTTOM LINE: tell your boyfriend it's over, that one of you needs to move out (I would be the one to move if I were you so you can make a fresh strart) and tell him that you just dont' see a future for the two of you. How he chooses to deal with it is up to him.
Please tell him it's OVER, have him MOVE out then continue on with the NEW guy. Would be so much easier and less drama if you tell your BF the truth. Even if you did, there will always be drama though, just less if it's done now instead of you waiting and become serious with the other guy. It might be harder and will cause some issues since the BF lives with you, but once he is gone and out of your life then you know for sure the road is clear of all bumps on the road and you can continue your life as peaceful and happy as you want it to be.
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I just think you should honest with him. Although I should warn you, if you know he as a violent pass, and you know that it may come down to that when you are telling him how you feel, it is better if you do it with someone there, that can protect you if anything happens. You should not attack him when you talk to him, tell him that you feel that he has not given you the necessary and that the alcohol does not help...express to him that even though you love him, he is hurting you and that you've tried to make things work, but its just not going to anymore. Hopefully he understands that it was him who pushed you away...one more thing....DO NOT mention to him about the other guy...he will use it against you and you don't want that, don't make the breaking up because you found someone else, make it about the fact that you are not going to deal with his alcoholism and everything else that he has done to you. hope that helps!





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