How do you live a normal life after having bin brought up with an alcoholic mother?

When I had my children, I hoped that my Mum might make up for my sh**te childhood, but the lies and excuses continued, until I decided I would not contact her. It was a last ditch attempt to get her to make an effort, but no........I haven't seen her now for 2+ yrs, any views, or ideas as to how I cope with this, as I have no one to relate to in my life, even my elder sister, who is single - no kidz, is no help ?How do you live a normal life after having bin brought up with an alcoholic mother?
What you want sweetheart is your mums love not someone to relate to.


Im sorry honey but you are not going to get it. You havent seen your mum for over 2 years and you have children of your own. You may not feel that you are coping but look how well you have done without your mum.


I think you really want your mum to change and be a proper mum and grandmother but that isnt going to happen. What do you really miss about her, did she ever listen to you, help you , give advice to you?


You are where you are today because of YOU. Only a very strong person would walk away as you did.


Let it go accept she will never be the mum you want and you will feel so much better. xxxxxxxxxHow do you live a normal life after having bin brought up with an alcoholic mother?
Hi i hat to say it but your alot better off with out your mum in your life or your kids.


i have a few friends who drink and they are not the best to be around with or without your kids.


forget her she has you if booze is so important to her x
Having children wont change your mum. She is an alcoholic no matter who or what. Sometimes if the alcoholic loses their family it spurs them on to do something about their problem. In your mums case this has not happened so may it might be best to visit your mum alone now and again just so that she knows you care. I say visit your mum and not ask her round to you place as I don't know how old your children are or if they can cope with seeing their grandma as she is. It might be better for starters if you went to visit your mum alone.


If you live in the UK then I suggest you find out where your nearest Alcoholics Anonymous is and pay them a visit as it is for family as well as Alcoholics. They are better prepared to help you than anyone else.
write to mum explain how you felt as a child, and now, tell her that you would like her to share in her grandchildrens lives but there will have to be conditions ie only when sober. If she cant accept this then I think unforunately as hard as it may be for you that you will have to sever ties and continue to raise your children the best way you can and move forward. Good luck I hope it all works out for you
Sorry to hear that. A member of my family was also alcoholic.


I know it is hard but try to be sympathetic, it is an illness and alcoholics go through terrible depressions because they know what they are doing but can't help themselves.


You are her daughter, who else does she have to support her but you.


Not having seen her daughter for two years can't be easy for her, plus she has the guilt of knowing why.


Try to build some bridges.


Good luck
babe my mum and was also and lucky me i had five older siblings, when i was eight i use to call aa child line for advive, my dad died five years ago due to booze abuse who i loved to death, i always had a hate love thing with my mum till a year ago when he gave up the booze..... funny thing is its now me who has the problem after being in a domestic violence refuge ect ect .... if u ever need a chat babe i will responde to u. i now have built bridges with my mum believe me its been hard... but i dont expect every one to. each story is differnent i.e. i wll never forgive the woman beater in my lifev and some women have happy endings ther their men change....... yeah like that leopard just changed its spots.... i wish u and your kuids the best babes, just think a bout u now let em all get on with it lola x