Does my angry alcoholic mother come live with me and my family?

My mother and her husband are separating due to my stepdads gambling addition and my mothers angry alcoholism. My brother and sister think she should come live with me cause I'm a stay at home mom and I will have time to babysit her. I've told my mom that I would love to have her here but No drinking or screaming in the house. She can not commit to no booze and says she s able to be a social drinker (which I know is BS! and she refuses treatment) She refuses to live anywhere else but my house. I'm worried cause i know she will drink herself to death in no time! I don't want her to die!!! and i don't want her to live with me! I've spent most of my life getting away from her (in the next country) and building a lovely life for myself and my family. How can I help her?Does my angry alcoholic mother come live with me and my family?
No - don't do it. You have a family to raise, and your mother is going to be screaming and drinking and generally screwing up everybody's day. She might say she won't, but finally she will.





Your mother is no longer important - but your children are - and they need YOU and they need a quiet, nice house to grow up in.





At some point you really do have to cut drunks loose to stand or fall on their own - and if they won't help themselves, then they'll die of their disease. But all this isn't your childrens' fault, and they don't need to even know about it.Does my angry alcoholic mother come live with me and my family?
u probly dont want to her this but u got to let her fall i have had the same problem wit my dad. i dont want my dad to die but if hes gonna drink hes gonna drink.just try to change her if u cant let her do it alone.
Set up an intervention with the rest of the family. Give her an ultimatum. Either she goes into treatment or living with you and your family is not an option. This is the time for tough love.
You clearly don't want her to live you. Please don't feel that you have to take her in. She is the one making the decision to drink. I'm sorry but until she decides that she is going to stop you can't help her. All you can do is be there for her when/if she makes that decision. I have had to walk away from my mother, the hardest thing is to realise that you are not responsible for her or her actions. And if anyone starts with the ';but she's your mother'; bull don't listen. When it comes to alcoholics, you have to do the right thing for yourself.





Try contacting al-anon for some help with this and for someone to talk to.
You can help her by practiicing some ';tough love';. You tell her that if she wants to live with you there is no alchohol in the house, no screaming and if she breaks that rule just once she is out the door - no second chances. If you have to leave her out on the street, do so. Sometimes people have to hit rock bottom before they accept that there is a problem. Everytime you or your family spread out the safety net for your mother it makes it harder for her to face the fact that she is a drunk. I have lived with a drunk - dont.
Don't give in to your mum unless she is willing to participate with your rules. It is a simple request to say No alcohol in the house. It is your house, your rules.





You don't have to pander to your mums issues, you have your children to think of now...and if your mum fails to see how her actions can cause a negative response in your house, that is not your fault.





Your brother and sister, of course will try to tell you to accomodate her -its easier for them to tell you what to do, than to put up their hands and help.