Now, while he was drunk the first night of the bet he admitted that he needed to go to AA and had me look up the number so he could call and find out when meetings were because he said ';I can't do it alone';. Now that he is drinking again he refuses to discuss it.
I have already threatened to leave once....Should I go to Al_Anon? How can I get him help?How do you get help for an alcoholic?
You should DEFINITELY go to Al-Anon. That alone will help you cope with his ridiculous behavior and have the support of other people who truly know what you're going through.
The bottom line is that HE has to be the one to go to AA if he really wants to. You can look up the meeting locations, dates, and times and even take him there if he asks you, but you can't really MAKE him go. And his line about being Irish? One word: EXCUSE. While drinking is common among the Irish, that doesn't mean that they are destined to drink themselves to death. This is just one example of his refusal to take responsibility for his decision to drink.
So he's afraid of being alone and going to meetings? Well, AA has sponsors assigned to new members just for this reason. That way newbies have someone they can rely on for support no matter what.
You do have a right to be upset about his drinking if it is affecting you. Since you live with him, I can't imagine that it's not affecting you. You wouldn't have asked the question otherwise.
That being said, driving drunk is inexcusable, especially since this is a routine occurrence. Personally, I would likely start reporting this to the police, if only out of a sense of social obligation to the other people out there who could be hurt by his ROUTINE drunk driving. You don't have to tell him you're the one reporting it, but be prepared in the event he finds out - I'm sure it wouldn't be pretty. You should be prepared to leave and then do it if this continues.
Good luck. You're going to need it.How do you get help for an alcoholic?
Truth?
Absinthe. Order him Absinthe. Let him drink as much as he wants, so long as it's Absinthe. Might take up to 10 bottles... but he'll quit drinking.
go to al-anon and go to AA. You will me meet somebody from AA with the best experience who will go to him and help him. Don't give up or be discouraged if he keeps having relapses. This is common. Be persistent and don't let him get discouraged. It is a serious, chronic life-threatening disease. It is incurable but it can be arrested. No doctor, psychiatrist priest, pastor or anybody else has had a record of success. Only AA has a record of success and has spread throughout the entire world. AA is not a place where drunks go to drink coffee. It is a spiritual movement and its method has grown to include drug addiction, gambling addiction, eating disorders sex addiction and many other seemingly uncontrollable compulsions. All over the world. There is no reason to be ashamed of a disease or a relapse.
I've got lots of experience dealing with alcoholics. The sad news is they usualy do not get help until they hit rock bottom. And even sometimes then it takes a couple more falls before they accept they have a problem and get help. Even if they know they have a problem that's not enough usualy for them to change because it is a disease and making that decision to get sober is a very very hard one for them. I feel for your sitautaion and unfortunatly if they are a true alcoholic your threatening to leave won't get them to stop drinking. Like I said hitting rock bottom in alot of situations help them see they need help. If he is driving around drunk he may kill someone or himself and if I was in your situation as terrible as this sounds I would definatly call the police on him. This behavior is likely to kill an innocent person. And if you knew he was driving drunk and did nothing to stop it and he did hurt or kill someone you would feel bad and be somewhat responsible. Calling the police and getting him off the road when he's drinking is the responsible choice and it may help him see that his behavior is taking his life in the wrong direction. I could go on and on more but we simply don't have the time. I hope I've helped. He'll only get help when he wants it, he won't change just cause someone else wants him to no matter how important that other person is to him. It's a disease it's in the brain and unfortunatly your in for a long hard road..good luck I wish you the best.
nah indians a big drinkers. Honestly, i dont think there is anything you can do, sorry if its bleak but they just wont change as its a good life being pixxed all the time and as much as he wont admit it to you, its not as fun sober. I suggest you let him be and accept his drinking but try and work some ground rules that make it less comfortable
In the end, the only person who can help him, is HIM.
You can be there for him %26amp; talk about it, and try to help him come to terms with his problem.
But drinking may not be the problem, it may be a response to something. If there IS something causing the problem, THAT has to be addressed.
I'm irish,and that's crap.
I'm sober 19-1/2 years.
yes,go to alanon.
Do what they do on the show Intervention. Have a intervention and send them to alcoholic ananymous meetings or send them to rehab.
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