What are the signs that you are living with an alcoholic?

And if that's the case will these feelings of wanting to run away and not deal with it go away? How do you find the courage to talk to him about it when he gets very upset if the topic is ever brought up? I find it difficult to tell if I love him anymore because he's very rarely sober. I'm even forgetting why I got married. I'm only 23, and it feels like I should be foccusing on better things in my life since there's still so much of it ahead of me.What are the signs that you are living with an alcoholic?
My ex as an alcoholic. We were together for 3 years (we were 21-24 yrs old). It was so bad that he used to hide little bottles of liquor all throughout the house- freezer, ac vents, diaper bag!!! I finally made him go to rehab right before our daughter was born, and 4 days after he got out, he got drunk again and crashed our brand new car- and I was 8.5 months pregnant. I thought I loved him, and needed to help him with this sickness. I learned that you can't help those kinds of people, they have to want to help themselves. You are still young, move on with your life. Focus on yourself, and hopefully you not being there will knock some sense into him. Good luck with everything!What are the signs that you are living with an alcoholic?
If you think you might be living with an alcoholic, you probably are. You say he is rarely sober. It takes a lot less than that to indicate alcoholism. You might want to check with your local Al-Anon group, which is dedicated to helping those with relatives and friends of alcoholics. AA isn't for every alcoholic and Al-Anon is not for every person who is close to one, but that might help.





If and when you decide nothing can be done, that will be the time to get out. Also, if he becomes abusive, that IS the time to get out.





If your relationship is worth salvaging, it will take work on your part and on his. If you both cannot work on it, then you both cannot stay together in a healthy way.





I wish you luck and wisdom for the situation.
He sounds like an obvious alcoholic.





%26gt; ';I guess I just have to decide if I'm strong enough to stay with him until he helps himself.';





He will not seek help unless he sees enough reason to, and you leaving may not be enough (since his denial will just push the blame on you and give his addiction another reason to convince him that he needs to drink).





Many alcoholics need to hit rock bottom before being able to successfully recover. You might be able to help (if you want to) with a properly executed intervention. He needs to understand that if he is unwilling to actively enter recovery, there will be sanctions/changes in his life brought by you (leaving).





%26gt; ';I wish he would be mean or cheat on me so I could just walk away but mostly I just wish this unsettling dread would leave the pit of my stomach so I could get back to enjoying life.';





He has a disease and doesn't realize it. That doesn't mean it is selfish for you to do what is best for you. If he gets help, there is hope for your relationship, but he needs to want to get help. If he does not, I think you have your answer.





Good luck!!





PS, you need to work on your self-esteem.
Normally I just answer questions with sarcastic remarks but this hits a little too close to home.


First go to an Al anon meeting, try looking in the phone book or on the web for your area.


Second there is NOTHING you can do, I know it sucks but it's the truth. Al anon is not for him it's for you.


Third he is sick not an excuse but a fact. Sadly his disease is hurting everyone around him especially you and it is OK to care for your own well being, emotional and physical first.


He may get better or not, if he does you may rediscover the guy you love(ed), if he doesn't then you won't.


Try therapy also, some insight into why you choose him may improve your sense of self worth too.


Sadly I came by this knowledge the hard way but I'm doing better and mending fences. Good Luck
Well, his sensitivity to the subject is one red flag that you are living with an alcoholic. The other is that he is ';rarely sober anymore';. You are right, at 23 you should absolutely be focusing on better things and you do have so much waiting for you. His drinking is HIS problem. Please don't let it become yours. You are young; if this situation does not change soon, please don't let his choices drag you down. It won't be getting better if he denies there's a problem.





Good luck and peace to you.
signs are'; If he needs a drink early in the day. If he does or says things while drinking that he later can't remember. If he is abusive when drinking and like another personality type when sober or vise verso.





Run honey a drinker has to want help you can't make them get help. It only gets worse and they never change.
When, despite your pleadings, the bottle means more to them then you do. In other words they are more in love with Captain Morgan than you.





Believe me you don't want to spend the rest of your life with an alcoholic. It's sick.





Oh and by the way don't believe it for a minute when people tell you it is a disease, it's a choice and then an addiction. You never hear people say that junkies have a disease. My ex cured her ';disease'; multiple times.
man or a woman is an alcoholic, is easy to know.all alcoholic people if they are saber, they not took at all the have ther head down, ther noes is fat and in some cases have pimples ,they have verry red color in ther face,as soon they get a dring they star talking a lat.they always brook no mony. they spend the day off in the bars with other drunks do not eat enough food
If he is hiding his drinking from you...then he is an alcoholic. that is a sure sign. I am sorry for you, thats a drag. Make sure you dont have any more kids with him. If you have kids dont leave them alone with him. Sorry!
The fact that he is rarely ever sober would be my first clue. He needs help. They have to want help in order to get it. Maybe you could gather his family and/or close friends and do an intervention.



Just out this link from aa.org. It's a brochure titled ';Is there an alcoholic in your life?';











http://www.aa.org/lang/en/catalog.cfm?or鈥?/a>
If you guys have kids, sit down adn have a serious talk with him. If not divorce him and get him some help. You are still young.
Take a break from him. Go live with your folks for a spell. If he comes around, explain the problem. If he doesn't come around, oh well.
i think you need to pack up and leave tell him you'll only come back when he goes through the twelve step program good luck
If you are scared you need to get out
divrce
i am an alcoholic. the first thing they wont admit that they have a problem. I can quit any time i want to. but i never wanted to. it makes us mad to be told we have a problem with drinking. you are the problem. all you do is gripe!!!!! Does this sound like at your house? i could go for ever telling you the reasons we don't quit drinking. you can't do any thing to make him quit. people say if your mom or dad was an alcoholic then you will be one. my dad was. but it was my decision to drink. and i sure did. a half gallon a day. for years. but i had no problem. i could quit any time i wanted to. i hurt my back with my fourth wife she never said a word about my drinking. one day i was running out of whiskey i was scared to be out. i cried i felt sorry for me. thin i got mad at me. when the wife came home we talked. it took years for me to stop the cravings. what i am trying to say. you can't help him till he wants to help himself good luck i will say a prayer for you two.