How on earth did you deal with the lying and trust issue? He won't even hear me say, or acknowledge that he is the one who broke my trust and gets angry when I do not take him at face value. Please, if you dealt with this, share what you can, I need to hear others speak about it too. I feel very alone.If you lived with an alcoholic, did the lies ever stop?
get involve with a support group. al non for families that have a family member who is an alcoholic...maybe you have already tried this or notIf you lived with an alcoholic, did the lies ever stop?
Isn't this driving you insane? I don't understand why you are still with him
while you are there, tolerating his drinking/lies -he doesn't have to really acknowledge there's an issue
He can comfortably convince himself your mistrust is the root cause of all issues...
Left to his own devices he would eventually suffer a wake-up call
Left to himself he would have to face up to reality
He needs therapy, but he'll never admit to that while you are there, and I really feel for you, good luck
He knows that he is wrong and that's why he won't discuss the issues with you. He probably won't change until it's too late.
I hope that you will take time for yourself. When you are fed up with this you will leave and feel much better. I'm not telling you to leave you must decide for yourself. It sounds like you will be leaving one day or another. That's how it happened fore me.
You need to really understand the concept of codependence.You create this microcosm of mistrust,lies and alcoholism.Get a book on it and really try to understand it.Good luck.
He has learned that he can get away with lying to you. He may never stop. If you can not live with it, you need to leave him. He may say he will stop, but don't believe it. He is a seasoned liar.
No comments:
Post a Comment