How can this bum think it's his house? please help i am pissed?

Okay i am so mad right now.I was living with a guy since i was 17-22 and we broke up. So i had to move back with my mom and stepdad. When she meet him i was still living with her. He was just a bum alcoholic living im mens shelter. He didnt even work for like a year and he went to jail. My mom pays rent and is on housing. So hes been working on and off for the past 5 years. And they have moved into a bigger house still paying rent and on housing. Now he hasnt been working for like 8 months. He just sits on his lazy fat *** and goes around the house complaing about what people arnt doing. So when we got on argument hes all dont get a attitude in my house u can get out. And i finally said u know what its my moms house too. Which i think its only hers to be real with it. And hes all no i am the man of the house this is my house blah blah and telling i can get out of his house that he let my mom have me here . Exuse me? In my mind i am like wtf makes u think this is your house. What do u do to be the man of the house u dont friken work or nothing doesnt clean up. And my mom was like argreeing with him. Just because he has a penis makes him think its house i dont think so. And why would my mom give him the power to think this when she knows how he came in and that us kids were with her first and he was just a bum. HE CAME INTO OUR HOUSE. I dont think my mom should let him think its his house when his *** dont even work. So what is your opion do u think i am right? I am so pissed. By the way i pay rentHow can this bum think it's his house? please help i am pissed?
I have no real answer for you here .... all I can do is empathize with you about all of this. From what I can tell, you're still pretty young and now, well, you're in the process of becoming wise beyond your years.


Men act like that because they can, but they get away with it quite frankly because of people like your mum.


You have a golden opportunity here to learn something that can affect the entire rest of your life and the quality of that life as you see fit.





The ';problem'; here seems to appeal to your sense of fairness because you pay rent, and honestly, you could pay for and own simply everything including that house and that would not change this mans behavior one bit. Fairness is not in his vocabulary unless it's about what he's not getting at that moment and your mom - as you've acknowledge - quite readily agrees that regardless of logic and fairness, what he says ';goes';.


So I suggest you, if only to relieve some of the stress in your own life, stop ';shouting into the wind'; and focus your energies on taking another tactic other than appealing to a sense of fairness amongst people who consider that a foreign notion,





- Your golden opportunity here is to learn what kind of person YOU are, and this revelation will benefit and support you in the rest of your natural life.


Learn if you're the kind of person that can accept this like your mom -her reasons for this are hers and have very very little to do with you- or, if you're the kind of person who can't.


What occurs next will tell you a heck of a lot about who you really are if you pay close enough attention.





Good luck in your learning experience, and in finding a suitable ';tactic'; other than fairness to appeal to these people with in order to resolve this quite weighty problem.





You're on a long hard road for awhile.How can this bum think it's his house? please help i am pissed?
He doesn't sound likely to see things clearly anytime soon, I'd say get out as soon as possible! Get yourself a little apartment with a friend or something!
tell him youn pay rent he doesnt





you have a job


he dont





you.......


he dont......





tel your mum how it is not his house talk to her in private
You pay rent, he doesn't. You have more right to be there than he does.
OMG i be pissed too! Who does he think he is. Your mum needs to wake up he is walking all over her. Who's name is the house in? Sounds like your mum does'nt want hastle and wants to keep the peace. She is in control and if she wants him there you cant do anything about it. If they were splitting up then you could take it further but it dont sound like that !


You pay rent you have more rights but it is difficult. I'd try avoid him if possible may be yr mum will realise one day.