Tuesday, August 10, 2010

How to live with an alcoholic? I'm 17 I need help?

I'm 17 my sister is 21, my dad got a new job so he lives a few states away. she drinks every night after work around 10 threw 1 am. I can't stand it, I am doing all the dishes, taking out the garbage vacuuming and cleaning up after her messes.


my other worry problem is that I can't sleep now because I know she will cook food when she is drinking and se has left the oven on all night and has left the stove on a couple times during the day, she also feeds my dog food at 2 am because she says he will go crazy if she doesn't. i don't know what the **** to do, i can barley keep myself together, oh and i have almost no friends so i can barely even talk to anyone about all this and have now started smoking.How to live with an alcoholic? I'm 17 I need help?
Kelly,


Put a good strong lock on your bed room door and make plans in case she set the house on fire have a plan of escape,let your dog sleep on the floor in your bed room,you could try to talk to her but it would be like talking to a brick wall,just learn to live around her,oh and bye the way mention it to your dad he might be able to talk some sense into her.


bye,malcolm.How to live with an alcoholic? I'm 17 I need help?
I'm presuming you are a dependent and therefore can't just walk away.





How serious are you at solving this problem? If you are really serious regardless of the consequences, I'd suggest you contact Al-anon, a world-wide organisation aimed at supporting the family of alcoholics. With support from them, it may get the ball rolling to alter your living circumstances, which may or may not be something you can live with. I'm not 100% sure, but I think they will keep your situation confidential if you request.
take her to an AA meeting, or maybe shes just drinking so much because shes now 21 n shes not used to access to alcohol whenever she wants it.





anyway, take advantage of it, steal her alcohol
hey if you cant beat him join him
2 of my biggest regrets in life - drinking and smoking. I have found all of the excuses in the world to justify doing both, but there are really are none. So firstly, quit smoking. It won't help anything.





Secondly, talk to your Dad. He has no right to go off and leave you living in this situation. Can you not go and live with him?.





Thirdly (and it probably won't do any good, as i remember what i was like at 21) confront your sister 'you drink every night, you are an alcaholic, get it together you sad cow' type of thing and let her know how selfish she is being. Tell her exactly what affect it is having on you and why it worries you ('i'm worried that you are going to burn the house down when you are drunk' etc).





Like I said, shes 21, so it may do no good, but it really is your dads responsibility to sort this out.


Sorry i'm so blunt, but if i could go back in time and talk to myself about it all, i would give myself a slap around the head and a stern talking to. :-)





Good luck x

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